The most difficult time for any man is probably between age 24 and 29 years,the pressure to be something and someone is so immense.

When you look around you,everyone seems to be doing something for themselves,people seem to be living a life you only dream of.

you have applied for jobs and the results have been more disapointing than Raila’s shot at presidency(pun intended).

Sadly this is the age when most guys lose it,the age if not careful,one is consumed by alcohol and drugs………because the disappointments become too much and you find alternative ways to face reality.

Worse is when a few people you studied with have beeen lucky enough to land jobs,soon your circle of friends grows thinner

mostly they dont even cut you out but you be real with yourself and cut yourself out.I mean,what will you do when in a whatsapp group of friends discussing last week’s trip to zanzibar and planning another road trip to kigali while you’re not sure of what your next meal would be?

most times you’d follow the conversation silently,all alone like a cross on a grave.

Soon you realise this is no longer your kind of crowd because the more you stick around the more the pressure to be something takes a toll.You know when stories about house parties come up and you act deaf because you dont know where an extra 5 guys would fit in your bed sitter!!!!

Have you ever sat in a group of people discussing the new iphone in the market or how Kenya airways offers shit services and you can feel your heart whisper to you bro,this is chest pain hour,can we just go and find a group that talks about boda boda…..

But you sit there as these people get lost in their lifestyle conversations,you Are like a secretary taking minutes in a meeting.Once in a while,one of the friends will turn and ask if you need another drink and you wonder if you should just say no and head home ……..but head home to what ?so you grudgingly drop in the “i will have just one,last one”a lie.

After a few years of job hunting you are now ready to take anything even if its to smell a rich mans farts as long as it pays.So you end up as an office messenger in one blue chip company in town.

To imagine that 4 yrs of studying and getting a degree is now reduced to picking and dropping off letters and if you are not doing that,you are being sent for cheap lunch by the employees when they are broke and they cant order on glovo.

This is where conversations about where people studied surface,you go silent,its no longer of any use to say you also reached university and graduated with a second class honours.Once in a while you will bump into your now well off classmates they would offer you lunch……but not even eating the meals at the best restaurants will make you feel better about yourself.In your mind you wish instead they would give you the 2k and you sort your meals for the next couple of days.

As usual,you will have photos taken and uploaded on instagram,but always its your face that would look odd one out.Not even the best filters can hide a face which has borne the city dust and survives on chapati madondo.

The worst mistake you can do during this period is to try dating.Theres nothing that a person going through such times can offer in terms of todays idea of love.How are you going to do evening romantic walks when you are tired from walking,delivering letters in offices around town.

What will you tell your lady when she says she wants to go for a game drive in Masaai mara or a road trip to Naivasha?………That your financial religion doesnt allow it???

This is the age when you sit back and watch the ladies you would want to date,dating or getting married to guys 10yrs older than you and you cant blame them its only that your life seems to be progressing slower than their goals in life,

For men,some of the ladies you meet during this period,if you are lucky will be patient with you till you hit 28………..and if by then your life is still in disarray like chelsea’s performance in the epl then my friend,be prepared for a walk out.

This is the age when you learn a lot about life,if you can hack through this stage,your only hardship would be losing your parents.This stage teaches you alot about perseverence,about appreciating the small wins you have each day.It teaches you something about friendship,love,career growth and personal responsibilty.This is always your rise or fall moment depending on the choices you make.

How you live your life in the 30s is determined by how you have handled this stage.

i havent been long in my 20s but i WILL NOT wait until this phase reaches me before i start dooing something about it.

Thats why i always ask,Are you working on your dreams today?